Before I started working full-time I noticed that many people seemed to dread going to work on Monday. They’d constantly wish away the working week and often say that the weekend went by too fast.
The thought of working full-time and having that same mentality was something I had no interest in. I wanted to like my job enough that I didn’t dread having to go in on Monday morning.
Over the past couple of years, I’ve done a lot of personal work with a focus on becoming a happier and more joyful about life. I wanted that same feeling of joy to be with me in whatever job I ended up in.
I started working full-time just over a year ago and with my new job came change in routine. I started going out more at the weekends, I’d spend Sunday mornings with myself doing things that I enjoyed and Sunday evenings preparing for the week ahead. I practice gratitude every morning as well as sometimes doing a guided mediation or visualisation exercise which is a great way to start any day.
I’m pretty lucky that I’ve never really dreaded going into work. Even on days that I do dread going into work, it’s not anything to do with the job itself. Perhaps I don’t feel like leaving my cosy bed at 6am, I’ve run out of clean work clothes or maybe I feel like hanging out with a friend.
I’ve taught myself to be joyful independent of my circumstances because even if I’m having a lazy morning I remind myself that I have a full-time job, I’m in good health and I don’t think I ever go a day in the office without laughter or being thanked for the work I do. I think that makes me pretty lucky.
When I started my job, I had what I’d call adjustment anxiety for quite a few months but I still found a way to look forward to going to work.
If I break it down my Mondays (and work days in general) involve getting up early, putting together an outfit, reading, writing, sometimes making phone calls, talking to people and learning new things. Those are all things that I like doing outside of my job.
In all honesty if I could do anything for a living it wouldn’t be my current job and that fact alone could be reason for me to not like going to work. But I’m a big believer in mind management and I quite like what I do and in some ways it’s perfect for where I’m currently at in my life.
Sometimes, we get into the habit of focusing on how we don’t want to feel which amplifies it. If my focus is on dreading going to work because I just want to relax and not spend 8/9 hours in an office and I don’t want to get up early and so on, I automatically don’t feel good.
Whereas if I think about it in a positive or more helpful way it feels much better. Instead of feeling dread you could remind yourself that every day you go to work you have the opportunity to sharpen certain skills, brighten the days of strangers or learn something new.
I guess it could be summed up as adopting a more positive mindset. It’s the kind of thing I used to roll my eyes at as it’s often cheesy and sometimes seems like it dismisses or minimises your personal experiences.
But I’m now at a point in my life where my perspective has changed, and I now find that looking at things in a more ‘positive’ kind of way helps me live a more joyous life.
Something useful is to ask yourself ‘how do I want to feel?’ and then work towards creating that feeling for yourself. Maybe it would involve a Sunday ritual of a bath followed by reading or prepping for the next day. It’s about whatever will make you feel good.
Do you ever dread going to work?
“Work is more fun than fun.”
“I don’t like work no man does but I like what is in the work the chance to find yourself. Your own reality for yourself not for others what no other man can ever know. They can only see the mere show, and never can tell what it really means.”
-Joseph Conrad, Heart of Darkness
“If all you do at work is hope to survive, your day can’t be much fun. We’re all working too hard. Putting in more hours than we’d like, nervous about the future, uncertain about our roles and our goals. We work too hard to hope for mere survival. Our goal must be to thrive and prosper, not just get by.”
-Seth Godin, Survival Is Not Enough: Why Smart Companies Abandon Worry and Embrace Change